The Happy Nurse

The Happy Nurse

Elaina Mullery promotes self-care strategies to her fellow nurses and healthcare workers.

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035: Self Care During Pregnancy With Chambrie Ferrier

Pregnancy can change women. Having a small human growing inside us can affect us physically, emotionally, and mentally. During this phase, many of us set aside self care as we adjust to our pregnancy. However, some of us manage to adjust and celebrate this new experience. In this episode, I talk with my good friend Chambrie about how her pregnancy has changed her. She and I share our woes, unusual cravings, self care practices, and ways to connect with our babies. We also discuss the importance of asking for help from our family and friends. TOPICS WE DISCUSSED INCLUDE: Pregnancy woes (02:00) Support from someone going through the same journey (07:30) Embrace indulgent self care and help (09:23) Give your body what it asks for (12:48) Don’t be afraid to ask for and receive help (17:52) Sleep (19:16) Work with what you’ve got and go with the flow (24:55) Support in different ways (27:26) Connecting with your baby through meditation and journaling (31:19) Struggling to connect is normal (40:11) Work and pregnancy (42:07) CONNECT WITH CHAMBRIE FERRIER Connect with Chambrie on (LinkedIn) Follow her on (Facebook) CONNECT WITH ELAINA MULLERY ( Connect with me on (Instagram) and (Facebook) Connect with me on (LinkedIn) Subscribe to my (Youtube) channel
February 22, 2021

034: Helping First Responders Deal With Trauma With Michelle Powell

First responders and nurses often deal with dangerous and life-threatening situations on the job. Because of this, the trauma and emotional stress that comes with their job greatly impacts their mental health which can cause burnout, depression and anxiety—to name a few. In this episode, we are once again joined by Michelle Powell as we delve into how facing trauma on a daily basis in your professional life impacts your personal life. Both the personal and professional lives of nurses and first responders may be negatively affected by the high degree of stress they face. There may not be much that we can change about the unknown traumatic situations that we as nurses or first responders will find ourselves in. However, there is a lot we can improve about the way we support our self-care and mental health before, during and after those situations.  Let’s always remember to give ourselves the same compassion we so freely give to others. TOPICS WE DISCUSSED INCLUDE: Desensitization and constant state of stress (1:38) Downplaying stress and trauma (2:40) Fear of debriefing (5:28) Being vulnerable when saying you’re not okay (6:05) Fear of asking questions (6:16) Trauma aspect and first responder aspect (6:38) The impact of being a first responder on your day-to-day life (9:45) Normalizing trauma which causes compassion fatigue (12:14) What is compassion fatigue? (13:02) What is vicarious trauma? (13:31) Everyday people are first responders (20:10) Nurses usually down play trauma (21:50) Managing fatigue caused by trauma (23:30) How being a first responder affects our personal life and personal relationships (27:39) Downplaying it to yourself (29:15) Practicing self-care before reaching burnout (29:50) Different ways people reach their breaking point (32:00) Why nurses downplay trauma (34:40) The danger of comparing our trauma with others’ (36:00) CONNECT WITH ELAINA MULLERY ( Connect with me on (Instagram) and (Facebook) Connect with me on (LinkedIn) Subscribe to my (Youtube) channel
February 10, 2021

033: Thriving through Menopause with Clarissa Kristjansson

Menopause happens to all women and is just another stage in this journey of life.  It is certainly a time of change for women. Emotionally, women experience a roller coaster ride when going through menopause. Although every woman experiences menopause differently, you can survive and thrive during this change and come out on the other side as a new woman.  In this episode, we get to chat with Clarissa Kristjansson, a menopause transition specialist on advice for nurses who are facing perimenopause and menopause and how they can cope with the changes and challenges that come with it.  Menopause isn’t forever and being able to meet it well and seeing it for what it is, which is a transition in our lives. Remember, you are just going through a transition and there is life after menopause. TOPICS WE DISCUSSED INCLUDE: Menopause effects (4:25) Symptoms of menopause (7:59) Making time to meditative practice (8:40) Go to the root cause (16:14) Taking a mindful walk (16:55) Managing stress better (17:26) Sugar doesn’t help with menopause (19:58) Struggling with sleep by managing our stress and diet (21:00) Tips for dealing with brain fog (21:40) Mindfulness and meditation (22:37) Looking after yourself (23:00) Feeling different after menopause (23:40)
January 27, 2021

032: High Performance Nursing Care with Liam Caswell

Self-care is defined as "what people do for themselves to establish and maintain health, and to prevent and deal with illness." However, this is one skill that many nurses seem to neglect.  In this episode, we get to chat with Liam Caswell, leader of High Performance Nursing, a community of nurses who seek to transform their nursing practice, workplace culture and service provision to deliver high performance nursing care in a sustainable manner.  Nurses are compassionate people who usually put their patient’s health, safety, and well-being before their own. But in order to give the best care to our patients, it is essential that we fill our own cup first. TOPICS WE DISCUSSED INCLUDE: NLP (5:21) How influential media is (6:00) Who are you giving your control to? (7:30) Getting inspiration from others to be your best self (8:54) Having a good understanding of yourself (10:00) Doing what’s important to us (13:20) Self-sacrificing leads to burnout (13:50) Are you happy to say no to yourself? (14:30) Having strong boundaries (14:50) Having a positive reframe of burnout (18:18) Why don’t nurses talk about burnout? (18:37) Normalising mental health issues (19:30) Psychologically safe workplace (20:00) Psychological safety (20:35) Culture of nurses eating their young (24:13) Fear of change (26:53) Fear of the unknown (27:10) Change is constant (27:40) FEAR: Forget everything and run or Face everything and rise (28:10) Having our vulnerability armour on (29:50) Building a high performance team (30:55) What your WHY is as a leader (31:50) Showing your vulnerability with your patients (34:38) Having our own individual needs for our own self-care (38:10) RESOURCES MENTIONED Start with Why by Simon Sinek (28:18) CONNECT WITH LIAM CASWELL ( Connect with Liam on (Facebook) Connect with Liam on (Instagram) CONNECT WITH ELAINA MULLERY ( Connect with me on (Instagram) and (Facebook) Connect with me on (LinkedIn) Subscribe to my (Youtube) channel
January 11, 2021

031: Real Relationships and Genuine Connections with Michelle Powell

People all crave love and belonging. The important thing to remember though, is to strive for healthy relationships and not allowing unhealthy patterns to develop in our lives.  However, as adults we sometimes let all the trauma and stress of life stop us from letting people into our lives and cultivating a friendly or romantic relationship. In this episode, Michelle Powell and I discuss the different factors that we have to navigate through when it comes to relationships—the stories in our heads, choosing quality over quantity, deciding whether to be vulnerable or not, online dating, love languages, and finding a balance between our feminine and masculine sides. TOPICS WE DISCUSSED INCLUDE: Michelle’s work (03:41) We all need true connections, love and belonging (4:50) Personal and professional trauma makes us hesitate in having relationships (6:57) The impact of core values on relationships (8:34) We all have stories in our heads based on past relationships (10:34) We build emotional armour to protect our vulnerable parts (12:33) You’ve grown and aren’t the same person you once were (13:55) Is it important to know your emotional triggers are before entering a new relationship? (14:30) We need to stay aligned with our integrity and be self aware of our boundaries (16:11) Boundaries can shift as you grow because it could be just you playing safe (18:16) Disposable vs authentic relationships (21:04) Online dating has its place in our society today but everything still depends on knowing your worth (23:10) Know your love languages (25:01) Females and males can see things in different ways so communication is key (29:24) When females tap too much into the masculine side (32:26) Societal pressures on women (35:26) Finding a balance between the feminine and masculine sides (38:40) Two-way communication is important, even though people find it hard to do (43:16) It’s okay to take small steps at a time (47:59) Have quality relationships without judgment (49:50) CONNECT WITH ELAINA MULLERY ( Connect with me on (Instagram) and (Facebook) Connect with me on (LinkedIn) Subscribe to my (Youtube) channel
December 28, 2020

030: Self-care For Paediatric Nurses With Brooke Batchelor And Erica Donovan

While there is a lot of news and attention on burnout among healthcare providers, burnout among paediatric nurses has received less attention. In this episode, we are joined by Brooke and Erica of The Paediatric Nurse, a supportive place for nurses and parents caring for children with a mission to transform paediatric healthcare & nursing knowledge by improving access to online continued professional development courses. We delve into the tips and tools for self-care specifically for paediatric nurses.  As paediatric nurses, building good rapport with children and being able to connect meaningfully with our patients requires us to show up as our best selves everyday. The best way to do so is by first filling our own cup. TOPICS WE DISCUSSED INCLUDE: Stories as a great communication tool (7:56) Having a mentor and coach (10:55) Not procrastinating too much (11:53) Meal preparations as a part of self-care (12:30) Practicing gratitude (13:18) Meditation practices (17:15) Our patients keep us on our toes (25:10) Learning to say no (28:12) Our children look at us as their role models (30:00) Having boundaries (31:15) Giving yourself permission to have fun (34:07) Self care tips for paediatric nurses (35:10) Letting yourself enjoy time with children (35:50) Being compassionate with yourself (37:08) No obsessing about work, after work hours (37:24) Leave work at work (37:30) Listening to your body and what it needs (38:16) Giving ourselves the same compassion we give others (44:47) Your health is not irreplaceable (45:53) Looking after ourselves (46:52) CONNECT WITH BROOKE AND ERICA ( Connect with Brook and Erica on (Facebook) and (Instagram) CONNECT WITH ELAINA MULLERY ( Connect with me on (Instagram) and (Facebook) Connect with me on (LinkedIn) Subscribe to my (Youtube) channel
December 14, 2020

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The Happy Nurse

Nurses are the backbones of the health system, always there to care for a stranger as if they were on their own. Forsaking special moments with their own families to ensure that other families ' loved ones are being cared for. Compassion fatigue, stress, and burnout are on the rise in healthcare workers. Self-care has never been so important.
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Elaina Mullery RN

Elaina Mullery RN

Elaina Mullery, RN studied nursing at The Robert Gordon University in Aberdeen, Scotland. She spent the first ten years of her career in Scotland before moving to Perth, Australia in 2010. Her clinical experience has been across a variety of settings including Orthopaedic Trauma, Operating Room, Endoscopy, Recovery and Day Surgery. She currently works in PACU.

Elaina has the first-hand experience of stress and burnout. It was this experience that led her to develop a passion for personal development. She has a diploma in Mindfulness and Meditation, and she is a certified hypnotherapist and a certified NLP Practitioner.

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