Beyond the Crossroads- Rebuilding and Reclaiming Identity After Sacrificing Careers for Caregiving with Emily Crawford
ONCE UPON A GENE – EPISODE 215
Beyond the Crossroads- Rebuilding and Reclaiming Identity After Sacrificing Careers for Caregiving with Emily Crawford
Emily Crawford left her lifelong dream job of being a teacher to surrender to the demands of care-giving. She joins me to discuss identity loss and metamorphosis after becoming a parent to a medically complex child.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS
Can you tell us about your family?
I have four children— Chloe is my middle child. The first eight years of Chloe’s life was seemingly normal and she hit all the expected milestones. At eight years old she started presenting unique symptoms and she was eventually diagnosed with a rare, life-threatening illness of her lymphatic system, called central conducting lymphatic anomaly (CCLA).
How has Chloe’s diagnosis affected your career and how did the shift affect your sense of personal identity?
I wanted to be a teacher my whole life. Right before Chloe was diagnosed, I was at the pinnacle of my career, being recognized as teacher of the year, presenting at teaching conferences and I loved living my passion. Immersed very quickly and suddenly into the medical parenting world, I had to give up my career teaching. It’s a personal struggle not to be teaching and the shift has been difficult. The shift was dark and isolating and I felt like I didn’t have anything to contribute to the conversations with teacher friends. I wasn’t connected to anyone else around me and I also experienced jealousy in my marriage because my partner was still able to work.
How have you adapted to your new role?
The biggest part of my journey has been to take part in mental health therapy, which has been really helpful for me. I get to the gym every day and I am part of the OUAG walk group. I look for pockets of time where I can do things for myself, like walking the parking lot when my daughter is in therapy sessions. I have leaned into my network of friends who have put in the time to learn about what I’m going through and I make time to have dinner or to see a movie with them. My children are my #1 priority, but I am Emily and I stay connected to myself the best I can.
Can you share about your recognition as a CPN Parent Champion?
I found CPN when I was researching pediatric palliative care and I knew my teaching skills would lend well to the Parent Champion opportunity. That role has led me to my people. We’re all doing big things, parenting, doing the hard stuff and we can relate well to each other.
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https://courageousparentsnetwork.org/
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