331: Solocast – Mom Guilt
Have you ever dealt with mom guilt? I know that I have. My mom guilt started before I was even officially a mom. I was pregnant and in residency and I couldn’t shake the feeling that all of my late nights and crazy schedule was messing up my unborn child.
Since mom guilt is so prevalent, I wanted to talk about ways we can deal with it. Because mom guilt never goes away, we just figure out better ways to manage it.
First things first, you need to practice self-compassion. We ALL feel it. We ALL think we’re messing up our kids. Give yourself grace, know that you’re only human, and the most likely outcome is that your kids will be just fine!
Next, realize that not all of our guilt is ours. We take on the scripts of other people in our lives, so make sure you’re only dealing with your own guilt. Then set boundaries between you and those people who trigger your guilt.
Like these tips? Listen to hear all of my tips. Remember, we all have it. You’re not alone. As long as you’re doing the best that you can do, you’re doing great!
“Mom guilt is the feeling that either I’m not enough of a parent for my children, that I’m not doing the right things or the decisions I am making now will screw up my children in the future.” Dr. Errin Weisman
In this episode:
[02:51] Mom Guilt, do you have a dose of that?
[03:21] I share my definition of mom guilt.
[04:46] I don’t believe that “mom guilt” goes away. I think it changes and gets different.
[06:16] Now I discuss how we live peacefully with mom guilt.
[06:37] Self compassion is the first step to dealing with mom guilt.
[08:13] Step 2, is when the guilt pops up, ask yourself, “is this mine?”
[10:08] Step 3 is to set boundaries with those who trigger the guilt.
[11:05] The next step is to remember these people’s comments come from their experiences and are about them.
[12:04] Step 5 is to carve out some space for yourself.
[13:38] Recently I’ve stopped taking one-on-one clients and have started spending more time with my children and husband.
[15:41] I’m right there with you configuring life and living with mom guilt.
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